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Redundancy, debt and money worries can all put pressure on your relationship with your partner. Denise Knowles, a relationship counsellor at Relate, offers advice on how to ease the strain. If you are made redundant, loss of income is the most obvious difficulty, but being without a job can also affect your self-esteem and self-confidence.
For some couples, existing problems are made worse because of the additional pressure they’re feeling. For others, coping with a new situation can lead to tension. Denise says financial difficulties can make people blame each other for their situation. She says, for example: “A wife may tell her husband he has no right to go out drinking with his mates if it means their child has to go without a new pair of shoes.”
For some couples, having less money means that they can no longer deal with problems the way they used to.
“It may be that in the past they bought their way out of a problem with a holiday or a present. If that money’s not available, they have to develop new ways of coping,” says Denise.
Any stressful situation can also have an impact on your sex life: “A lot of people avoid intimacy when they feel under pressure.”
How to ease the strain money puts on your relationship.
There are many things you can do to improve your relationship and lots of places you can go to for help and support.
Getting financial advice can ease your worries
Deal with the practical side first. Talk to your mortgage lender and bank if you’re concerned about meeting payments or going over your overdraft limit. Get advice on paying off your debts, find out what benefits you may be entitled to, and work out a plan to search for jobs.
“People who’ve never been in this situation before may feel embarrassed,” says Denise. “Don’t be. The people who work as advisers are there to help. If you don’t want to talk about your problems in person, use telephone helplines and look at the information that’s available on the internet.”
There are many organisations that can help. The Citizens Advice website has information on benefits, how to deal with debt, what youre entitled to if you’re made redundant, and who to turn to if you lose your home.
Be open with each other about money
Talk to your partner about your worries. Excluding them can cause resentment. Discuss the issues and try to work out a way you can deal with them together. For example, you may need to see a financial adviser together, or agree on a budget for your weekly spending.
It’s also useful to talk to friends. “Men are more likely to keep problems to themselves and become isolated,” says Denise.
“Women are more likely to unburden themselves to girlfriends. Although talking to friends won’t fix the problem, it will help you feel a bit better because you’re not bottling it all up.”
Talk about your losses
Discuss how losing your job or having less money is affecting you as individuals and as a couple. Look at where you spent money on having fun together and think of ways you can do things together without spending money, such as going for a walk or cooking a nice meal at home.
Appreciate the little things in your relationship
Think about small gestures you can make, such as running a bath for your partner or making them a cup of tea. These little things can help you feel closer.
Any stressful situation can affect your sex life. “Low self-esteem can be an issue as well,” says Denise. “Sometimes people who are made redundant feel their performance has been criticised, and this can cause problems.
“Don’t stop cuddling, stroking each other and kissing each other. You can still maintain an intimate and sensual relationship.”
Further relationship help
If you don’t feel you can work things out on your own, there are people who can help and support you. Talking to a professional therapist could help – your GP can advise you on psychological therapy services in your area.
Published: 11/06/2015, By NHS Choices
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Earlier this month, the White House was drenched in blue light, a gesture of support for the Autism Speaks campaign for Autism Awareness Month. For the first time since the largest autism advocacy group in the country began persuading public spaces to turn on blue lights in 2010, the White House joined Niagara Falls and the Empire State Building to participate in the campaign.Â
“We come together in unity to increase understanding and acceptance of children and adults with autism, across the spectrum,” the Autism Speaks campaign writes. “As a nation, we must meet the critical need for increased research and support.”
Autism spectrum disorder is a developmental disability affecting more than 3.5 million people in the United States, or 1 in 68 children, according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. (Some advocates believe autism is underdiagnosed in Hispanic, black, and female children.) Those who have it can experience mild to severe difficulty with expressive communication, social interaction, and motor skills. The cause is unknown, but the misconception that common childhood vaccinations can cause autism has been thoroughly disproved. Nonetheless, on the campaign trail, Donald Trump suggested otherwise.
Of all the advocacy and research groups that seek to broaden society’s understanding of autism spectrum disorder, the most prominent and well funded was founded in 2005 by former NBC President and CEO Bob Wright and his wife, Suzanne, after their grandson was diagnosed with autism. The nonprofit received a $25 million donation from Home Depot co-founder Bernard Marcus to assist in its launch. By 2015, (the most recent numbers available), theÂ group’s yearly budget totaled around $60 million.
Autism Speaks funds research into the causes and treatment of autism, works to increase public awareness about it, and advocates on behalf of people with autism and their families. In the past it also explored the discredited link between childhood vaccinations and autism. Suzanne Wright, who died in 2016, often wrote about the devastation of the developmental disability. “Life is lived moment-to-moment,” she wrote in a blog post before the 2013 Autism Speaks policy summit in Washington. “In anticipation of the child’s next move. In despair. In fear of the future. This is autism.”
That dire message of the tragedy of autism has attracted the support of many politicians and celebrities. Sen. Tammy Baldwin (D-Wis.) lauded Autism Speaks in a speech at the opening reception for the summit. “You talk about Autism Speaks. I talk a lot about voices, voices that are too often not heard in our political process,” Baldwin said. “I think we can really break through some partisan divides by uniting around the issue of Autism Speaks.” During the organization’s 2015 Leadership Summit, former Sen. Kelly Ayotte (R-N.H.) said, “I know that you’re making a difference in coming together around autismâ€¦Hopefully we can find research that is going to cure autism and certainly provide better treatment for it.” Conan O’Brien hosted the group’s 10th anniversary celebrity chef gala, where musician Pink also performed. Earlier this month, Rep. Paul Ryan (R-Wis.) tweeted a picture featuring a pin of the nonprofit’s logo for “Light It Up Blue.”
#LightItUpBlue for #AutismAwareness. pic.twitter.com/uaNcgJPgYK
â€” Paul Ryan (@SpeakerRyan) April 2, 2017
But despite the broad support, enthusiasm for Autism Speaks is not shared by those in the broader autism community who complain the organization further stigmatizes autism and includes few autistic people in positions of leadership.
“Throughout their history they have held points of view that are destructive to autistic people.”
“Throughout their history they have held points of view that are destructive to autistic people,” says John Robison, who was once the only autistic person on an Autism Speaks advisory board. “ForÂ example, the organization has characterized autism as a debilitating condition that destroys families and prevents autistic people from living happy lives.”
In fact, self-advocates argue, their disability is not something that needs to be cured, but a vital aspect of who they are. Many consider autism and other neurological differences such as ADHD part of normal human variation; given this neurodiversity, they argue, autistic people should be accommodated and supported in society, not cured. Figuring out ways to do this is where research dollars should most productively flow. Past efforts of Autism Speaks to find a cure, they say, is an implicit suggestion that the world would be better off without autistic people. Indeed, some consider this as a form of “eugenics” and call the organization a “hate group.”
Many self-advocates point to a 2009 video produced for one of the group’s awareness-raising events called World Focus on Autism as a prime example of how the organization spreads messages that increase the stigma about autism. “I work faster than pediatric AIDS, cancer, and diabetes combined,” the ominous disembodied voice of autism warns as images of autistic children by themselves appear. “If you’re happily married, I will make sure that your marriage fails. Your money will fall into my hands, and I will bankrupt you for my own self-gain.”
The backlash was immediate. One blogger called the video a “disservice announcement.” A parody video using the same footage featured a similar voice to personify Autism Speaks, intoning, “I will make everyone think you and your children are diseased and disordered and then turn on them.” The Autistic Self Advocacy Network, a nonprofit run by and for autistic people, organized protests. In response to the controversy, Autism Speaks quickly took the video down.
In a blog post years laterÂ announcing his resignation from the board, Robison wrote he had hoped to steer the organization and its fundraising power in the right direction by trying to bring attention to how destructive its messages have been to the psyches of autistic people. “We do not like hearing that we are defective or diseased,” he wrote. “We do not like hearing that we are part of an epidemic. We are not problems for our parents or society, or genes to be eliminated. We are people.” Autism Speaks did not respond to the criticism at that time.
“We do not like hearing that we are defective or diseased. We do not like hearing that we are part of an epidemic…We are people.”
As they push back against harmful messaging and misconceptions, the internet “has completely revolutionized the way that autistic people can connect to one another, can connect to other people,” says Julia Bascom, executive director of the Autistic Self Advocacy Network. The web has been game-changing, she says, because it’s “a form of communication that does not have to happen in real time, does not involved eye contact, does not involve body language or tone of voice or anything like that,” all of which are challenges for many autistic people.
But there’s another factor contributing to the rise in autistic self-advocacy, explains Bascom. “In the autism community, you saw a bunch of people being diagnosed starting in the ’90s,” she says. “And we’ve grown up.” Despite this reality, only 2 of the nearly 30 board members at Autism Speaks are autistic. “Autism Speaks is an organization with a beautiful name and a tagline that says it’s time to listen, but they are very bad at listening to autistic people and amplifying the voices of autistic people,” Bascom says.
Over time, Autism Speaks has changed its leadership and taken steps to address some of the criticisms. About six months ago, the group revised its mission statement, taking out language referring to the “hardships” of autism and the search for “a possible cure.” But Bascom points to the research the group continues to fund: Instead of investing in work that helps autistic people communicate or improves their lives in other ways, she says, “there’s this huge amount of research dollars dedicatedâ€¦to genetic research and looking for biomarkers and things like that, and only a tiny fraction is looking at stuff autistic adults are saying would be helpful.”
Stephen Shore, one of the autistic board members, says that even though he has noticed a shift in organizational prioritiesâ€”everything from working with autistic people in a more meaningful way to changing the focus of the group’s researchâ€”he would like to see more autistic leaders. “It always takes time for an organization to change, so we can’t expect an organization to have a research focus on genetic markers today and then tomorrow it’s focused on researching the efficacy of various approaches for working with children on the autism spectrum,” he says.
Another sticking point for critics is its past research examining possible links between vaccines and autism, even as evidence against the debunked theory continued to grow. The group didn’t take the firm stance that vaccines do not cause autism until 2015. That change came about three months before Bob Wright, who continues to spread anti-vaccine misinformation, stepped down as chairman. (He still sits on the board.) Wright, a powerful businessman in his own right, is a “longtime friend” of Trump, according to White House press secretary Sean Spicer. The president, who has also engaged with the anti-vaxxer conspiracy, has hosted fundraisers for Autism Speaks and encouraged his Twitter followers to donate to the organization in the past. Wright also publicly supported Trump in the 2016 election.
Which leads back to the White House turning blue, something Trump promised the late Suzanne Wright he’d do if he won the election. In the past, Obama had been asked to participate in the “Light It Up Blue” campaign, but advocates quickly lobbied against it, explaining “why that would be harmful, and they did not,” Bascom says. But clearly things have changed. In the White House statement announcing the administration would be participating in the campaign, Trump used the kind of languageÂ Autism Speaks has recently backed away from, mentioningÂ the “obstacles” families face and saying, “Ongoing efforts to scan the human genome carry significant potential to better manage the disorder and, ultimately, find a cure.”
Published: 04/01/2017, By Joy Shrum
Copyright ©2017 Mother Jones and the Foundation for National Progress.
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Before Your Donation
- Blood Donation Tip – Eat HealthyMaintain a healthy iron level in your diet by eating iron rich foods, such as red meat, fish, poultry, beans, spinach, iron-fortified cereals and raisins.
- Get a good night’s sleep.
- Drink an extra 16 oz. of water or nonalcoholic fluids before the donation.
- Eat a healthy meal before your donation. Avoid fatty foods, such as hamburgers, fries or ice cream before donating. (Fatty foods can affect the tests we do on your blood. If there is too much fat in your blood, your donation cannot be tested for infectious diseases and the blood will not be used for transfusion.)
- If you are a platelet donor, remember that your system must be free of aspirin for two days prior to donation.
During Your Donation
- Wear clothing with sleeves that can be raised above the elbow.
- Let the person taking your blood know if you have a preferred arm and show them any good veins that have been used successfully in the
- past to draw blood
- Relax, listen to music, talk to other donors or read during the donation process.
- Take the time to enjoy a snack and a drink in the refreshments area immediately after donating.
After Your Donation
- Drink an extra four (8 ounce) glasses of liquids and avoid alcohol over the next 24 hours.
- Remove the wrap bandage (if you had one put on your arm) within the next hour.
- Keep the strip bandage on for the next several hours.
- To avoid a skin rash, clean the area around the strip bandage with soap and water.
- Do not do any heavy lifting or vigorous exercise for the rest of the day.
- If the needle site starts to bleed, apply pressure to it and raise your arm straight up for about 5-10 minutes or until bleeding stops.
- If you experience dizziness or lightheadedness after donation, stop what you are doing and sit down or lie down until you feel better. Avoid performing any activity where fainting may lead to injury for at least 24 hours.Learn more about your need for iron after blood donation at www.redcrossblood.org/iron
Published by American National Red Cross
© 2017 The American National Red Cross
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